From juvenile crime and drug use to learning problems and mental disorders, boys far outrepresent girls. Why? Gurian thinks it’s because we’ve neglected the emotional needs of boys. Thanks to testosterone, boys are “wired” for aggression, but this behavior tends to push people away, lessening chances for emotional connections. Arguing that many boys also have low self-esteem, Gurian offers dozens of sensible ways for adults to nurture boys. For instance, Gurian suggests that boys need a “clan,” a group of five or more boys; a clan offers emotional support, plus important opportunities for boys to test themselves. He also discusses when it’s time to explain the reasons for ethical behavior, the discipline tactics to foster responsibility, and the expectations parents and teachers should have for boys and their psyches during different stages of their lives. Reasonable and balanced, this should be a fine addition to parenting collections.
