Yes, boys and girls are different, says Washington state
family therapist Gurian
Sons and Lovers), urging that society learn how to deal creatively with
gender-specific needs. In considering the cultural effects of
heightened gender consciousness, Gurian
of the dangers of "enmeshing male development with a female culture in
transition." Outlining biological differences, he explains that boys
are "hard-wired" to possess certain traits. Because of male brain
chemistry and the hormone testosterone, boys are apt, for example, to
relish risk-taking and to be physically aggressive and competitive
(violence, he claims is not hard-wired, but learned through culture).
What Gurian adds
to this generally recognized background material is a persuasive
summons to society, specifically parents, educators and communities, to
unite to channel these traits in positive directions. Sports, for
instance, allow competition but also teach responsibility. Work, nature
study, music and spiritual pursuits are other positive
who has also lived in Europe, Asia and the Middle East, suggests that
we in the U.S. have grown away from beneficial rites of passage and
toward "isolated, tremulous, family systems." In this shift, he
contends, boys have been abandoned, and he urges that society reclaim
responsibility for the moral and spiritual upbringing of young males,
with guidance offered by elder mentors and support coming from extended
family or community. Writing in a calm, compassionate voice, Gurian delivers a
compelling call to action.
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"THE WONDER OF BOYS is a provocative book that electrifies the debate over how this nation raises sons."
"THE WONDER OF BOYS will help future generations open the lines of communication between men and women by giving us what we need to raise strong, responsible and sensitive men.
"What Mary Pipher has done to raise our national consciousness in her book REVIVING OPHELIA, Michael Gurian has done in THE WONDER OF BOYS."
— Betty B. Youngs, author of HOW TO DEVELOP SELF
ESTEEM IN YOUR CHILD
Michael Gurian, firstname.lastname@example.org,
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