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Males are struggling throughout our culture—experiencing trauma, violence, unemployment, school failure, under-motivation, and in many cases, destitution. Males are also underserved in the helping professions. Boys and men often feel that therapists and mental health professionals are not as well informed or educated in what males need as they could be. Download the Press Release.
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Read
the article in The AAMFT
Family Therapy Magazine here.
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When we sit back and think about this, the view of many males
makes good sense. Our offices, clinics, and schools are often set up
for sitting quietly in a chair, rather than for physical movement,
hands-on learning, thematic therapy, and other male-healthy strategies.
And to make matters more murky, our professional dialogue in workshops
and trainings often veers away from what boys and men need for fear of
focusing on males to the detriment of females.
Transformation in clinical practice comes from both new thinking and
new “doing”. HOW DO I HELP HIM? helps transform theory and practice to
include a deep understanding of male development in therapy, health
care, and human services. The book is gender equal and female positive.
It includes new logic models and practical tools and strategies that
will transform your private practice, office, agency, residential
treatment facility, or other mental health care environment. These new
models and tools do not replace present psychological theories, but
instead blend with prevailing psychological theories to help ensure
their effectiveness with boys and men.
Throughout the book, readers also learn new ways to look at girls and
women’s lives, couples’ communication, and marriage and family issues.
The lives of boys and girls and women and men are inextricably linked,
and ever more so as our culture evolves. To take better care of boys
and men is to help girls and women flourish, as well.
HOW
DO I HELP
HIM? A Practitioner's Guide To Working With Boys and Men in
Therapeutic Settings
by New York Times bestselling
author Michael Gurian (GI Publishers, September 7, 2011).
To inquire about discounts for bulk orders, please email info@gurianinstitute.com

— Michael Thompson, Ph.D., author of “IT’S A BOY!: YOUR SON”S DEVELOPMENT FROM BIRTH TO EIGHTEEN, and writer/producer of the PBS special RAISING CAIN: PROTECTING THE EMOTIONAL LIVES OF BOYS.
In HOW DO I HELP HIM?, Michael Gurian captures eloquently why talk therapy is so often ineffective for males. Gurian's understanding of boys and men and his wisdom regarding how to alter our approaches can, and hopefully will, change the therapy landscape exponentially in the direction of being meaningful and effective. I highly recommend this book to everyone in the helping professions.
— JoAnn Deak, Ph.D., Author of GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS and HOW GIRLS THRIVE.
“In HOW DO I HELP HIM?, Michael Gurian combines brain science, counseling theory, and case study into a readable and informative synthesis that is valuable for those seeking to address the needs of men and boys in therapeutic settings. Amidst all the rhetoric surrounding the “boys’ crisis” today, Gurian provides a clear voice of reason that clarifies the problems and offers plausible solutions. His writing style, as always, is crisp and compelling. This book makes a valuable contribution to the ongoing discourse surrounding the issues that he presents.”
— Frances R. Spielhagen, Ph.D., Director, Center for Adolescent Research and Development, Mount Saint Mary College, Newburgh, New York.
HOW DO I HELP HIM? is a powerful and practical book. It provides a great weaving of stories, statistics and research. While the book was written with therapists and social workers in mind, it actually helps anyone who wants a richer understanding of gender. This book energizes me! I hope everyone in the psychology, law, criminal justice, and mental health fields will read it.
— Michael Piraino, National Director, Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA).
“HOW DO I HELP HIM? is a must have and use now book that gives professionals fresh direction, insights, and strategies for working with boys and men. Written by Michael Gurian, one of the world’s foremost experts on male development, this book empowers and equips us to alter counseling environments and theories to work well with males. As Founder of a Counseling and Treatment Center 27 years ago, I only wish this groundbreaking book had been available earlier. “
— Gregory Jantz, Ph.D., Founder, the Center for Counseling and Health Resources, and Author of HEALING THE SCARS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
Michael
Gurian, MFA, CMHC has been a professional mental health
counselor for twenty years. Certified in the state of
Washington, he is in private
practice at the Marycliff Center in Spokane. He is the New
York
Times bestselling author of twenty five books published in twenty one
languages. A number of his books in Psychology,
Education,
and Leadership have sparked international debate and policy
change. These include THE WONDER OF BOYS, THE WONDER OF
GIRLS,
LEADERSHIP AND THE SEXES, THE MINDS OF BOYS, and BOYS AND GIRLS LEARN
DIFFERENTLY.
Michael’s THE WONDER OF
BOYS was the first major trade title to detail the social issues boys
face in America and apply a brain-based approach to gender specific
solutions. THE WONDER OF GIRLS then applied the brain-based
approach to girls’ development. Michael’s theory and practice
led
to the founding of the Gurian Institute, which conducts field research,
launches pilot programs, and trains professionals in science-based
gender effectiveness. Michael and the Gurian Institute team
have
trained more than sixty thousand professionals in more than two
thousand agencies and schools across six continents.
A
dynamic presenter, Michael has been called “the people’s philosopher”
for his ability to translate scientific information into effective
practical strategies. He has presented at Harvard University,
Stanford University, NASA, Google, UCLA, Johns Hopkins, and many
others. His work has been featured in most of the major
media,
and numerous professional journals. He has worked with the
Departments of Justice, Ecology, Corrections, as well as Big Brothers
and Big Sisters of America, Court Appointed Special Advocates, and many
other federal, state and community organizations.
Michael
has a Bachelor degree from Gonzaga University (1980), an MFA from
Eastern Washington University (1985), and post-graduate coursework in
Education at the University of Missouri-Kansas City (2000).
He
developed one of the nation’s first brain-based gender psychology
courses in 1994, which he taught at Gonzaga University.
Michael
is a member of the American Counseling Association, the International
Association of Marriage and Family Counselors, and the Washington
Professional Counselors Association. Michael is married to
Gail
Reid-Gurian, a family therapist in private practice. They
have
two grown daughters.

